**do the thing not with some made up, fantasy version part of yourself but with your every day, normal self**
This is such a illuminating point
Related: people will find social situations draining when they interact through a constructed self to maintain, potentially due to fear of rejection etc. Needing a particular emotional state to interact with others is draining. like needing alcohol to talk.
Another physical example: stretching by tensing forcing into the position sucks, vs stretching by being present trying to view the stretched position as normal. I like going into a deep stretch that's borderline uncomfortable, holding it for 40 seconds, and then noticing where i can now wiggle like it's a normal position I go into everyday.
Yes, you get it! This is exactly what I'm talking about, and it applies to all layers of our being. It's creating and maintaining an entire different person - it's draining.
Also, since you're working on BreatheLess Practice, you'll find that this kind of insight will be extremely useful and cultivated even further. I've arrived at the same exact conclusion when it comes to stretching.
Thanks man! It sounds like you had some kind of self-induced synchronicity right there. I hope that first positive experience builds into something permanent.
(A supplementary "technique" is to have a mantra that you say to yourself. Not an affirmation but a reminder to take a couple of seconds before reacting, and have space to apply the above. Something like "remember who you are" or "remember yourself")
**do the thing not with some made up, fantasy version part of yourself but with your every day, normal self**
This is such a illuminating point
Related: people will find social situations draining when they interact through a constructed self to maintain, potentially due to fear of rejection etc. Needing a particular emotional state to interact with others is draining. like needing alcohol to talk.
Another physical example: stretching by tensing forcing into the position sucks, vs stretching by being present trying to view the stretched position as normal. I like going into a deep stretch that's borderline uncomfortable, holding it for 40 seconds, and then noticing where i can now wiggle like it's a normal position I go into everyday.
Yes, you get it! This is exactly what I'm talking about, and it applies to all layers of our being. It's creating and maintaining an entire different person - it's draining.
Also, since you're working on BreatheLess Practice, you'll find that this kind of insight will be extremely useful and cultivated even further. I've arrived at the same exact conclusion when it comes to stretching.
Thanks man! It sounds like you had some kind of self-induced synchronicity right there. I hope that first positive experience builds into something permanent.
(A supplementary "technique" is to have a mantra that you say to yourself. Not an affirmation but a reminder to take a couple of seconds before reacting, and have space to apply the above. Something like "remember who you are" or "remember yourself")