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Brute's avatar

You can get stronger by thinking about training. Although I dont think it is the same as thinking about already having the strength thus making your analogy still accurate.

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Hyde's avatar

I think the effects of thinking about training are minimal anyway, but yes, that would be part of the process rather than "believing" you're strong and trying to lift 405 DL.

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Ed Mirago & friends's avatar

I wonder if you can talk to your friend about how problematic it is to deflect his discomfort with his gf's behavior by deciding unilaterally that she's crazy. There's a terrible gender dynamic in this — so easy for a male bodied person to pretend it's all her and she's nuts. Unfortunately, women have literally been committed to mental institutions or murdered because of someone else's unexamined story. I really appreciate, Hyde, your prompting the friend to take a look at himself.

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Hyde's avatar

Haha yeah. I mean his comments are tongue in cheek as far as I can tell.

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Ed Mirago & friends's avatar

thanks, that feels better. though, sigh, language and joking are excellent masks to pretend the dark stuff isn't real when it is.

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